In 1977, I was eight years old and starting the third grade. My classmates and I were a generation of “latch key kids.” We were some of the ﬁrst to be taught “sex ed” at that age. And that year we welcomed an African-American teacher & students to our largely caucasian school. It was also the ﬁrst time we met a kid whose parents were divorced.
My religious upbringing saw the divorced as unforgivable sinners. As a result, my parents didn’t want me to hang out with this kid. Yet, each week in Sunday School, I would hear conﬂicting messages to avoid “sinners” and yet share the Gospel with unbelievers. Needless to say, my friend never felt comfortable at church.
Conversations about divorce are troublesome. Each person is affected by divorce differently. The ramifications of divorce are deep and wide. You may have done terrible things. Someone may have done terrible things to you. You may feel unable to forgive yourself. You may feel unable to forgive others.
I too have been deeply hurt. I too have thought and done the most terrible things. In this series, I intend to be honest about my own broken relationships.
How do we want to respond? Do we want our lives to be marked by fractured relationships, bitterness & unforgiveness? Lives deﬁned by avoidance, fear, & hatred?
Dr. Eric Mason recently spoke on the topic of racial reconciliation. In it he pointed out that the onus is not only on the offender. Why? Often the offended can sit with a bitter and unforgiving spirit. Mason’s talk reminds us that forgiveness and repentance are beneﬁcial to all parties involved.
The goal of this series is to converse about divorce so that we might become a people of reconciliation. Perhaps, we can become people who have a restored way in which we relate, think, and posture ourselves, a people with open hands rather than clenched ﬁsts.
- Forgiveness does not imply blind trust. If you have been wounded, forgiveness and repentance are still the best plan of action. Please do not go it alone. Seek assistance.
- Maybe you have divorced yourself from God & you can’t bring yourself to forgive him. Your pains are very real. Please know there is assured healing. Again, please do not go it alone.
- Unforgivenss in divorce.
- Unforgiveness of your parents.
- Refusing to forgive yourself for how divorce has affected your child.
- Superior attitudes over people effected by divorce.
Let’s come together to be a people of reconciliation and create a culture of repentance in regard to divorce.
QUESTION: How has your life been impacted by divorce?